Yesterday, we considered the biblical theological continuity and discontinuity of the creational imperatives of ruling and bearing children and how they are picked up in Jesus’ Great Commission. I concluded by asking how gender roles in marriage impact the presentation and the proclamation of the gospel. In other words, I wanted to get at how gender roles in marriage interact with the Great Commission. Are they necessary for the discipling of the nations in such a way that if abandoned the message of salvation would be distorted or denied? Or are they merely inconsequential components that actually impede the progress of the gospel? Would it be better to “get over” issues of gender so that we can reach the plethora of egalitarian socities that are resistant to the gospel? Which is it? Surely Scripture which in its opening chapter distinguishes male and female has something to say about the matter.
In 1 Corinthians, the Apostle Paul writes, “Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of the woman” (1 Cor. 11:2). Just as Peter says, “wives, be submissive to your own husbands” (1 Pet. 3:1ff), commending them to be daughters of Sarah who showed her husband respect and deference by calling him “lord.” “Likewise, husbands, live with your wifes in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life” (1 Pet. 3:7). Even if the world lives to turn the Bible on its head and rejects these teachings in passionate unbelief, the Scriptural portrait is undeniable. Men and women are equal, yet distinct. Both made in the image of God, they are co-heirs; nevertheless in their roles and natural relations they are different. Husbands are to lead and wives are to help. This is the original pattern, and this is the restored relationship in the plan of redemption. The man’s good works are uniquely masculine, while the woman also displays a particular feminine conformity into the image of Christ. And in the Great Commission, these roles are not to be undermined. Rather as mutually distinctive partners, husbands and wives, can, should, and must complement one another in the work, not compete for one another’s place of service. Douglas Wilson writes about this in his book, Reforming Marriage:
A husband and wife are not to be shoulder-to-shoulder, marching off to work at the task together. Nor are they both to be home all the time, face-to-face, eternally and perpetually ‘in love.’ Rather, with both man and woman understanding their respective roles, he faces his future and calling under God, and she, by his side, faces him (Doug Wilson, 66).
The point is, Jesus’ Great Commision is not a sex-less enterprise. Rising from the dust of the original imperative to be fruitful and multiply, it is not to be accomplished by androgynous disciples; rather, it is to be fulfilled by redeemed men and women who are shaped by the Spirit into distinctly masculine and feminine representives of the kingdom. Paul commends this in Titus 2 when he instructs older women to teach younger women and older men to model the faith before younger men (cf. 2:1-10). Though cross-gender evangelism is frequent and fruitful, this is not the same thing as biblical discipleship. Men need godly men to whom they can pattern their lives, and women need mature females to train them in domestic holiness.
Likewise, we who claim the name of Christ must realize that the evangelistic task is not simply about winning disconnected individuals to the Lord, though many will come on their own (Matt. 10:34-36), but to see the families of the nations (Ps. 22:27)–men, women, and children–saved and adopted into the family of faith. When this happens, relationships are built, roles are revived, the household of God flourishes, and the glory of the gospel is seen. The gospel then does more than give eternal life to the transexual male who flees from their former lifestyle, it completes its task by “restor[ing] the hearts of the fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers” (Mal. 4:6). Likewise, the gospel’s witness and effect is not only seen in that it redeems the soul of a pro-choice prostitute, it also dignifies that woman’s choice to become a mother, so that she may be saved through child-bearing as she “continue[s] in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint” (1 Tim. 2:15). Here we are not talking about the rudiments of the gospel–what must be believed–but the effects. The gospel is seen in the transformed lives of men and women (cf. James 2:14ff, not coincidentally James includes a man and a woman in his illustration–Abraham and Rahab).
This kind of specific gospel transformation can only take place when gender roles are upheld. Moreover, the Great Commission can only have its true effect when the nations obey all Scripture has to say about men and women’s roles. This can take place in the jungle tribe that forsakes polygamy to conform their marriages into unions that resemble Christ and the church, or it can take place in the urban jungle where a young married couple decides against the pill and to pursue a family in a culture that normalizes two-person incomes. In his wisdom, God designed his Spirit-indwelt children to find gender-specifc niches in his family–as mothers and fathers, sons and daughters–and in doing this the Great Commission is advanced. To neglect this is to reject the whole counself of Scripture and the need to rightly reflect in our marriages and homes the gospel of Jesus Christ. This is not optional, but absolutely essential.
Focusing on the need for marital conformity to the Great Commission is instructive because it calls Christian husbands and wives to consider their marital orientation and to ask, “How are we fulfilling the Great Commission?” For those who are married, this must be the central aim of their marriages. It must become the one thing that sets the agenda for everything else. Truly, this is a high and holy calling and one impossible without the Spirit, but then again, why should we settle for anything less? Jesus promised to all those who believe in him, that he would come and live within them, until the end of the age, and that by his Spirit we would be bold witnesses (cf. Matt. 28:18-20; Acts 1:8). This is the promise that accompanies the command to be worldwide witnesses. This reality is true personally and in marriage.
May the Spirit of Christ be pleased to grant us grace and wisdom to fulfill the task of winning the nations, through husbands who lead their families to love the kingdom of Christ and wives who come alongside their men to help accomplish the task.
Sola Deo Gloria, dss