[This is a follow-up post from The Mystery of Marriage: A Parable of Christ and Church which reflected on George Knight’s article on Ephesians 5 in Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical Feminism, edited by John Piper and Wayne Grudem [Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 1991], 175-76)].
From the foundation of the world, marriage was always designed to picture a greater reality. Generation after generation of God’s covenant people knew of his marital designs and creation, but only in the fullness of time, as Jesus Christ came in the flesh and the Spirit of Christ inspired the apostles to elucidate the gospel of Jesus Christ, did the mystery of husband and wife become known. Consider Knight’s concluding remarks:
But if this is so, then the order Paul is speaking of here (submission and love [in Ephesians 5:22-33]) is not accidental or temporary or culturally determined: it is part of the essence of marriage, part of God’s original plan for perfect, sinless, harmonious marriage. This is a powerful argument for the fact that Christlike, loving headship and church-like, willing submission are rooted in creation and in God’s eternal purposes, not just in the passing trends of culture (176).
In our foolish and anti-Christ(ian) world, there are countless marriages that exist in rebellion against the very purpose for which they were designed. God made marriage for his glory and the expression his covenant love with his bride, redeemed humanity. Consequently, the establishment of marriage in Genesis 2 was intended to tesify to this reality.
Today, unbelievers experience the mystery of marriage, but without knowing how to understand it. They are blind to its salvific and cosmic significance. Too non-Christian marriages are drenched in bitterness and guile, because unmitigated sin gnaws at their covenantal bond. But unbelievers are not alone. Christian marriages war against God’s design for marriage whenever they cast aside God’s intended order for husbands and wives (cf. 1 Cor. 11:7; Eph. 5:22-33; 1 Pet. 3:1-7). This can be done by deliberate egalitarianism or by immature believers in need of marital sanctification. Either way, in failing to recognize God’s wise design for husbands to lead and wives to follow, for men to love like Christ and women to submit like the church, they are dishonoring the Word of God, disobeying the Lord who bought them, and distorting God’s picture of salvation captured in the parable of marriage.
God’s illustrative purposes for marriage is what makes it a mystery. Just as the heavens testify to the glory of God, so marriage captures something of his grandeur–something that is seen in the best of marriages, to be sure. Likewise, as baptism and the Lord’s supper resemble the salvation of Christ’s disciples, so marriage images something about Christ and the church. In this way, marriage is a kind of quasi-ordinance. It is not restricted to the church; it is rather for all people. Yet, in its global enjoyment it testifies to heavenly realities and God’s cosmic plan of redemption in Christ. In this way, marriage is perhaps one of the largest and potentially broadest means of sharing the gospel, as marriage itself can be called upon to witness to Christ and the church. The impact of marriage biblically arranged and gloriously incarnated has great evangelistic potential. Soberly, couples that disregard God’s word concerning marriage, cannot have such effect.
God’s designs are not new, they are from before the foundation of the world. Neither is Satan’s attack on marriage. He attacked Eve in the Garden and he is still advancing towards marriages today. May we who love the gospel and the biblical vision for marriage, fight to protect our homes from the corrosive effects of an anti-marriage culture, and may we by the power of the Spirit embrace and embody God’s glorious designs for marriage. So that perhaps, the world around us might come to know Christ by the testimony of our marriages which point to the message we proclaim–Jesus Christ is Lord!
Sola Deo Gloria, dss